Letters To My Kids

My Dear Loves,

Beautiful angels, there’s so much I want to teach you and show you.

Sometimes I worry I’ll be too busy or distracted to tell you. Or that I’ll say the wrong thing when you really need the right answer.

So I’m writing it all down for you now. If my voice isn’t always there, maybe my words will be.

Sweet angel loves, I want to prepare you for the battles ahead—and the ones no one can prepare for:

• The bullies who may try to hurt you—and how to walk away strong.
• The boundaries to set so you’re never a victim.
• The anxiety that may sneak in, uninvited and confusing.
• The depression that might visit, trying to diminish your light.
• The heartache you’ll feel, even when you’ve done nothing wrong.
• The beauty of finding true connection and chemistry.

Life is vast, complex, unpredictable, and wildly out of our control.

I don’t believe anyone ever lands on one final answer or perfect solution. Life will always have uncertainty—and that’s okay.

Please, my sweet angels, never rely on others to prove that your life is good.

• Don’t rely on others to create your happiness.
• Don’t expect others to read your mind.
• Your life isn’t defined by who loves you or who stays.
• Your worth isn’t measured by how well someone takes care of you.

The only control you have in this world is how you live in it.

• You are responsible for your happiness.
• You are responsible for taking care of yourself.
• You are responsible for listening to your emotions and finding solutions.
• You are your own advocate.
• You must protect yourself. Believe in yourself. Defend yourself.

If you can do that, your relationships will feel balanced and full of harmony.

Take responsibility for yourself—without placing that weight on others. And when you support the people you love, do so with healthy boundaries.

Friends and family can offer advice, comfort, love, and a listening ear—but they can’t live your life for you. The big decisions must come from within.

Knowing this frees you. You’ll learn what you can expect from others—and what’s not your job to fix.

This is how you draw the line. This is how you build boundaries. Things become clearer. More structured. And that structure brings peace, stability, and safety.

It reminds you that you are capable. That you can care for yourself. That you can love yourself.

Handling Bullies

This one’s tricky. Mommy is 39 and still figuring it out. But I’m getting there—stronger each time. Less afraid each day.

So, what do you do with bullies?

First and most important—acknowledge right away that what was said or done is wrong, false, and abusive. Don’t let it sink in as truth.

Recognize that you do not deserve this. That their words may come from ignorance, anger, or fear—but that doesn’t excuse the harm.

Then, if you feel safe to do so, challenge them. Speak up. Show others this behavior isn’t okay. Help create a safe space for yourself and those around you.

You might say:

• “Say what you want, I don’t care.”
• “I’m not stupid. That’s mean. Why would you say that?”
• “I’m not a bitch—I care deeply about people.”
• “How dare you call me that. I’m a good person. I wouldn’t call you names—until now.”

If it gets really bad, call someone you trust.

When you get home, take time to process. Write it out. Sit with your thoughts. Talk it over with someone who loves you.

Each experience will teach you. You’ll get better and better at protecting your peace.

And if you get stuck—it’s okay.

• If your mind goes blank—it’s okay.
• If you can’t find the words—it’s okay.
• If you cry—it’s okay.
• If you walk away without saying anything—it’s okay.

Just keep practicing self-love. Keep remembering what you deserve.

Everyone in this world is entitled to:

• Respect
• Kindness
• Equality
• Acceptance
• Compassion

You are no different. Please don’t ever believe you are.

My sweet loves, you will need to grow armor in this world—but also learn to surrender and be vulnerable. Know when to be strong and when to be soft.

Know when to show your pride—and when to step aside so someone else can shine, too.

My angels, I’ll write to you again soon.

There is no measurement big enough for the love I have for you both.

Love you always and forever,
Mom